7 Lovemaking Mistakes That Couples Make
and How To Avoid Them
Did you know that people who try to spice up their lovemaking,
often make their experiences LESS fulfilling? It�s true.
Over the years, I've seen couples make the same mistakes
over and over again, when trying to improve their love lives,
and I'd like to teach you how to overcome and avoid these
problems. Here are the 7 lovemaking mistakes. Are you making
them?
Mistake #1: Feeling scared or embarrassed to talk
about trying new things
Have you ever had an idea to spice up your lovemaking but
were afraid of what your partner may think? Believe it or
not, in 90% of cases, your partner would LOVE to try something
new, too, but they're just as uncomfortable or embarrassed
about bringing it up as you are.
And you don't need to introduce whips, chains or a third
person. That's nonsense! There are hundreds of ways to bring
variety to your passionate play that aren't crude or dangerous
and that your partner is sure to be comfortable with.
Mistake #2: Trying to convince the partner to make
love
If your lover is tired or not in the mood for sex, trying
to convince or persuade them to have sex almost NEVER works.
On the other hand, when a person is sexually aroused, their
body releases the chemical 'adrenaline' into the bloodstream.
This chemical is what gives you the energy to make love. So
here's how to arouse them the right way. Yes, even if they're
tired.
Ladies: Want to get him in the mood? Give
him fellatio or manually stroke him between 9 � 10 in the
morning. This is when his testosterone levels are highest
for the day. For better results, also wear something sexy
or nothing at all. He'll like that.
Lads: Deep passionate kisses are one of
the biggest 'turn-ons' for women. Looking in her eyes and
touching her face while kissing her can really increase arousal,
too. And give some attention to her neck��it will drive her
wild. But don't rush this! Spend quality time building up
her arousal with your sensual kisses.
Mistake #3: Neglecting foreplay to enjoy intercourse
sooner
People in a relationship (especially men) tend to neglect
foreplay so they can begin to enjoy intercourse sooner, but
did you know that foreplay is actually said to intensify orgasms?
That's right. If you kiss, caress and touch longer, you can
make your lovemaking even more satisfying. So SLOW DOWN. Take
your time. If you want to make it even better, tease your
partner in a playful way. (This works like crazy.)
If you find something that they really enjoy, stop doing
it, move back, and then do it again later. The more you pull
back and push forward, the more they'll want it. And the more
intense their experience will be. There are many games you
can play to heighten this anticipation, too.
Mistake #4: Using toys or porn to make your lovemaking
better
When sex hits a rough patch, many couples (men especially)
think that a video, some plastic or vibrating thingy will
instantly takes things through the roof.
Wrong!� While toys can certainly have their place in your
lovemaking repertoire, relying on them can be extremely dangerous.
These outside sources of pleasure can quickly make lovemaking
even less fulfilling.
Why? Because you don't want your partner to end up looking
forward to their plastic toy for pleasure more than they look
forward to pleasure with you, do you? Couples need to first
fully discover how to please all their spouses' body parts
before introducing other elements. Use them as a spice, not
the main course.
Mistake #5: Trying to make the woman orgasm ONLY
from intercourse
Men often feel "unmanly" if they can't satisfy their woman
from intercourse. But what they need to understand is that
a large number of women can't achieve orgasm through normal
lovemaking.
Just knowing this takes the pressure off men completely. Now
there's no need to get upset when their women don�t reach
orgasm. Instead, men should master the art of cunnilingus
(going down on a woman).
Mistake #6: Trying to �finish� at the same time
Simultaneous orgasms are quite overrated. Instead of aiming
for one orgasm that you share together, focus completely on
the woman�s needs first. Hold off from the positions you find
most enjoyable and instead make love in ways that are most
pleasurable for your lady, until she is completely satisfied.
That way you have a much greater chance of both climaxing.
Mistake #7: Sticking to a �set routine� too often
You know the drill. You take your clothes off, insert part
A into part B, and, within a few minutes, the routine is over.
Sound familiar?
No matter how fantastic lovemaking can be, there�s no denying
it can get boring over the years. And the reason is because
lovemaking in its basic act is always the same. But the danger
is letting it get �too routine,� which can begin to affect
your relationship.
The BEST WAY to protect your love life and precious connection
with your partner is to have lots of new lovemaking ideas
ready at your disposal.
That's the secret.
In fact, when you have an abundance of NEW tips and techniques
ready, you�ll enjoy more hot, steamy and passionate lovemaking,
discover newfound enthusiasm to make love and even make love
more often.
About the Author:
Oprah Love Expert Michael Webb is the author of 500 Lovemaking
Tips, a book full of ways to spice up your lovemaking, adding
more passion, pleasure and intimacy to your experience. To
read more, Visit this link --> 500
Lovemaking Tips and Secrets
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